January-February 2016 Newsletter
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XL Project/ Love Them To Life Newsletter

“Surfing the Wave of Grace”

As I sit looking out my window on this extremely cold day, my thoughts are drawn to the thousands of people who are homeless, especially those who have lost everything due to addiction. The fear that is expressed by the mothers and fathers of those in addiction is palpable – what is to become of my child? We receive many calls from the family members of addicts and yet are continually reminded that only when the person in addiction wants help will that process begin. Our job with the families is to point them in the direction of getting healthy themselves so that they are not enabling and codependent.

We are in the process of putting together a seminar called Love Them To Life for Family and Friends. Although the main thrust of LTTL is to mothers, it is important to reach out to other family members and friends who are also hurting and confused as to what to do and what not to do to help their loved one. Many churches have little or no experience in addiction and do not know what to do when members have loved ones who are addicted. The seminar would be a one-day presentation (most likely on a Saturday) that would address issues such as roots of addiction, pathways of addiction, how addiction affects loved ones, relationships within the family, emotions, codependency and enabling, financial issues, the world’s answers to addiction, and God’s answer to addiction. Please contact us at lovethemtolife if you think your church or group would be interested in hosting a seminar.

This is a powerful poem I came across recently that expresses so well what addiction looks like from deep within its bondage. Our mandate is to share the power of Jesus Christ to free people from bondage and to give them new, abundant life.

I NEED To Get High.

I’m your child, or spouse, or friend.
But I’ve changed.
I don’t care about you.
Not in the way you want me to.
I care about getting high.
I WANT to get high.
I will do ANYTHING to get high.
I LOVE getting high.
I NEED to get high..
and I will step over you to do it.
When I look at you, I don’t see YOU.
I see a means to an end.
You have money.
I want it.
End of story.
I don’t care if you can’t pay the rent.
I don’t care if you need groceries.
I don’t care if you promised not to give me money.
I don’t care if you lie to Dad.
I don’t care if you’re broke.
Sell your rings, take a loan, sell your electronics, max out your credit cards, or borrow the money, because if you don’t, I will STEAL it.
I WILL find a way to get HIGH.
You think you can CHANGE me, or SAVE me.
But you’re WRONG!
I don’t respond to love.
Something cold and dead slithers within me.
You can CRY all you want.
It won’t change things.
My morals are a thing of the past.
I will say anything, do anything, and hurt anyone, to get my next FIX.
Although I may play the game with you, make no mistake.
I play, because I want money for DOPE.
I’ll say what ever you want to hear, I’ll promise you the world, I’ll look you in the eyes, and I’ll break your heart…
Over and over again.
I don’t have a heart.
I have a HUNGER.
It’s calculating and manipulative, and it OWNS me.
In a strange way you’re thankful for this.
For when I need something I find you, quick!
Then, when I’ve gotten what I want, I leave.
You’re anxious without me.
You offer to buy my food, or pay my rent.
You live to GIVE.
By now, you’re NEED is almost as great as mine.
I can’t stay SICK without you.
You can’t breathe without ME.
You think you’re helping me.
You believe you’re making a difference.
But what you’re really helping, is my ADDICTION.
I won’t tell you this, but you know it, deep down.
If we keep going like this, one or both of us, will die.
Me from an overdose, that you paid for,
and you from a heart attack, or stroke.
You’ve waited YEARS for me to change, or see the light.
You keep my secrets and protect my lies.
You clean up my mess and bail me out.
You love me to the exclusion, of EVERYONE else.
My addiction, changed you.
You hide from your friends and isolate.
You’re bitter and depressed.
Your world revolves around one thing only… ME.
But will your LOVE, ever become greater than your FEAR?
Would you be strong enough to reach out for help?
Will you learn to say NO?
Will you allow me to experience the consequences of my actions? Will you LOVE me enough to feel your discomfort and stop enabling, my addiction?
I lay trapped with within the confines of this cold dark, serpent – addiction, and I am… dying.

Lorelie Rozzano

One of the ways you can help us is to “like” us on Facebook and share us with your friends so that the word gets out. We post regularly on both the Love Them To Life page and the XL Project page. Please help us spread the word of help and hope for the addicted and for those who love them.
We also depend on your financial support in order to stay in full-time ministry. Gifts can be sent to XL Project, 31A Yorktowne Pkwy, Whiting, NJ 08759. You can also go to the “Donate” tab on
All donations are tax-deductible.
Your prayer support is what keeps us going. We do not take that for granted and thank you so much for being a part of this ministry.

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